But on the second date, you want to figure out pretty quickly if this is . Other than that it's not a red flag if we don't kiss by the third date. Well i met this guy online and we have met twice so far. First time we went bowling, then for a meal. The second date he invited me round to his. I think what you describe is a good sign. Here is a gentleman that is taking his time to get to know you. In this day and age when many people are “in bed” by the.